Hate

Hate is a powerful emotion. To hate someone or something takes a lot of energy out of you. Even if you don’t spend a lot of time to thinking about it, when it does come up it will consume you for as long as you want to hold on to it. Even if you can switch your emotions on and off quickly , it still robs you of time.

No one wakes up and decides they are going to hate someone, it can happen over time or through one super bad thing that someone does.  The person you now hate in most cases does not  even know you hate them, hell even if you tell them they don’t get it. 

So what good does hate do you? Make you feel better ? Rob you of the good memories you might have shared with that person? Upset you every time you think about them?  The thing about hate is in most cases it’s a one way street, the person you hate could careless about your feelings. 

Will Smith has a verse in one of his songs, can’t recall the song, but the verse is “ hate in your heart will consume you to”  The first time I heard that I said , “He don’t know what he is talking about”  I was a good hater, I held on to it, feed it, tossed gas on the flame to keep that hate alive.  No I did not go around everyday thinking about the people I “hated” but when I did think about them it did consume me.  The old saying ,time is the one thing we can never get back ,is true.  Instead of wasting time and energy on hating , what could have I done with that time?  If it was just 1 minute a month for 15 years that’s still 3 hours I will never get back. 

What I ended up doing is forgiven those folks, did I tell them ? No! but since they did not know or care what was the point  of telling them? What was in it for me , peace in my heart and no more wasted time. Do I like these people today? In most cases no, but I no longer hate them and try my best to love them. I don’t have to like someone to love them.

Do I still hate some things? Of course, I hate child molesters , rapist and evil.  Not real fond of a bunch of other things and people but I don’t hate them. 

Letting go of the hate was not as hard as I thought it was going to be. I hit my knees and asked God to remove the hate from my heart.  It did not happen right away but over a short period of time.

For me I want peace, love and happiness in my heart and in my life, having that hate in my heart took up space there as well as in my mind.  Don’t need it , nor do I want it.

Life is pretty simple if we allow it to be,  in my case I am the one that keeps getting in my own way.

 

*As always all spelling and grammar mistakes are mine, however if you can’t figure out what I am getting at its your problem not mine ,since I write for me